While talking with a friend, I found out that he had recently broken up with his girlfriend. He was very sad about it, but he said something that almost slipped by me. He said the worst thing was that he would now be alone on Valentine's Day. At the moment we were talking, I just expressed my sorrow over the breakup and ignored the comment about Valentine's Day. We chatted for awhile and then went our separate ways.
By the time I got home, I realized I was furious at myself and at Valentine's Day. This man has great friends and a very loving family. Yet, on Valentine's Day he planned to be alone. Post why? He did not have a girlfriend.
I thought about this and I felt angry. Personally, I think Valentine's Day discriminates against singles! The majority of the marketing blitz for it emphasizes being in a love relationship with a partner. The message is that if you're single, then you might as well forget Valentine's Day.
Wait a minute. What's wrong with being single? Think about it. I've thought about it and it makes me wish I could repeat that conversation with my friend. If I could, here's what I might have suggested to him:
WRITE YOURSELF A VALENTINE.
Buy or make a valentine. Inside it write things you like about yourself and what makes you special. But do not stop there, take the next step and mail this valentine to yourself. If Valentine's Day is about love, then why not express the love you have for who you are and the person you've become. This is something you can do by yourself and for yourself.
SEND FLOWERS TO YOURSELF
Okay, I know some of you are thinking that this is a selfish thing to do. But if you enjoy flowers, why should not you give them to yourself? Let them remind you of what you have accomplished or what you plan to accomplish in this coming year. If not flowers, then send yourself a different gift as a reminder that you ARE loved.
CELEBRATE VALENTINE'S DAY WITH FAMILY OR FRIENDS.
What's so important about having a partner, when you have supportive family members and / or friends who love you? Get together with the people who are important to you. Consider hosting a special meal or some other event. Whatever gathering you plan, take time to tell each person why they are special to you. And then they can tell you something special about yourself. That's sharing love.
DO SOMETHING THAT MAKES YOU FEEL GOOD.
Think about what would make you feel good on Valentine's Day. You might take your dog for a nice run in the park, surprise a lonely neighbor with a valentine, fix a favorite dinner and eat by candlelight or get in touch with an old friend. Doing something good for yourself or someone else is a wonderful expression of love and a great way to celebrate Valentine's Day.
I missed my opportunity with my friend, but I get a second chance with those of you reading this article. If you are single and dreading another Valentine's Day, stop it. Remember that love is more than just being a couple. Sure it's nice to be with someone special, but if you're not, it does not mean you do not have loving relationships.
This Valentine's Day pay tribute to love. Celebrate the love of whomever gives you support; a family member, the friend who's always been there for you, or even your pets!
Source by Sara Healy
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